As an educator and an openly queer woman, I've had the privilege of witnessing countless moments of self-discovery and courage. Each time a student shares their truth with me, it's a reminder of the power of pride and the impact it has on our lives.
Pride is not just a personal journey; it's a collective force that fuels our bravery and sustains us, especially during uncertain times. When students confide in me, I see the fear in their eyes, a fear that I, too, once knew as a closeted queer college student.
Back then, the world seemed to worry about Y2K, but my anxieties centered on my identity. I wanted to connect with others like me, but the queer community at my Midwestern Catholic college was hidden and confidential. I had no Google to guide me, no online support groups, just a novel that reflected my experiences and a professor who didn't understand the self-disclosure I was attempting in my assignment.
Despite that professor's reaction, writing that paper was a pivotal moment for me. It was an act of self-discovery, a way to make sense of myself and my identity. And so, I've chosen to always be out, not as a political statement, but because hiding is exhausting. I'd rather invest my energy in living my life authentically.
Over the years, students have shared their love stories with me, nervous and hesitant at first, but always finding the courage to be true to themselves. These conversations have evolved, but the essence remains the same - new and nervous love stories.
Today, I often find myself in the role of a parent-proxy, a stand-in for the important conversations students want to have at home. I take this role seriously, knowing that these young people are seeking acknowledgment, reassurance, and a sense of belonging. They want to be seen, understood, and loved for who they truly are.
In a world that often feels divided, where LGBTQ+ folks are villainized and their stories silenced, pride becomes a powerful tool. It's about more than parades and drag shows; it's about developing confidence, self-assuredness, and the courage to do hard things.
Pride allows us to grow, to embrace our authentic selves, and to share our stories. It's a reminder that we are valuable, worthy, and loved. And in a society that often prioritizes comfort over growth, pride becomes a necessary force for change.
So, as we celebrate Pride Month and beyond, let's continue to share our love stories, to inspire and be inspired, and to remind each other that the world needs more love, more understanding, and more pride.
